It’s kind of amusing to me how many people think that I’m a virgin. Not people who know me very well- I’ve been very open about my rape, so I’m obviously not, but I’ve had sex beyond that as well, more times than I can count, with two different partners. Yet the assumption is floating around that I’m either asexual or completely virginal. There’s nothing wrong with either of these things, but they’re not who I am. My relationship with sex is complicated, thanks to the above rape. Just because sex isn’t a priority or a want in my life right now doesn’t mean it won’t be in the future. I hope to be lucky enough to get into a relationship again soon, but sex is such a hurdle. I hope that the conversation won’t be horrifically awkward, though I’m afraid it will be. Sometimes I just want to hold a sign that says “Yes I’ve been raped so can you please stop throwing these weird ideas in the air thanks.”